Never Ask Yourself Who’s The Boss! You Are!

So many times we come across unhappy people, blaming the others for their failure in life.

If you tend to agree with my statement, I’ll point out for you the two premises which attract all those tragedies:

“Blaming the others”

Let me tell you this story I’ve read somewhere: two brothers who had a drunken, drugs addicted father, evolved completely different in their lives. One of them became a respected business man, always honest and helpful, responsible and fair. The second one became a drugs junkie, like his father. Overcoming addiction was simply impossible for him in that stage. When they were asked why did their life take such a pursuit, they both answered: “Well, with such a father, there was the only possible way”.

Lesson 1: given conditions are not important. What we do with them, is.

“Failure in life”

Why and when do we consider that we failed? When things are not sorting out the way we wanted? What if we wanted exact the outcome that we actually got? Then the same situation would have been considered a success, and not a failure.

It is all about your mindset, and you can choose between aiming low and getting tons of successes (while keeping a low personal standard), or aiming high and risking not to attain all objectives (while setting yourself a higher personal standard).

Lesson 2: reaching our objectives is less important that their height.

Maybe the most important of all is to never let others take control over your life. Remember that you are in charge of your life, no matter what. You are the boss!

How do you do? Are you setting objectives too low, from fear of not reaching them? Are you disappointed and demotivated if you don’t reach some of your goals?


  1. While drug addiction and alcoholism are genetically passed from parent to children, that child has a choice. It will be more difficult for that child to not become a drug addict…but it can be overcome.

    If we aren’t in control, then someone or something IS in control.

  2. I’m a strong believer that we always have a choice. Even when I choose to do something I hate, it is still my choice. I can say no any moment and take the consequences. And that child you’re mentioning, Bobby, maybe he developed an automatic rejection of drugs or alcohol, exactly because he was fed up with things he saw in his family.

    But it is easier to let that SOMETHING to be in control and complain how unfair life was to you. I’ve met so many people who do so… it is sad.

  3. @ Revell

    Drug addiction and alcoholism are passed genetically from parent to children? 😯 Now Simonne, what has choice got to do with that. 😕 I’m not in anyway denying that what one becomes in life depends predominantly on choice.

  4. Soli, I happen to know a lot of people who blame the faith for what they consider to be their failures in life. They don’t believe we ever have a choice, and that our destiny is dictated by luck and by environment.

  5. There are always two ways for humans to choose. We can either choose what is prevailing and easy or change the thing in the way we want. Human will is the strongest thing in this world.

    The only thing is direction with an option to choose.

  6. I like how you said it, Fahad: “direction with an option to choose”. It’s not that bad being a human, after all.

  7. we always have a choice to choose our own path.successful people in human history had prevailed because they never blamed their faith for their misery or failure & sit idly but they learn from their failure,work hard for their dreams & came out successful.

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